Not very long ago, maybe 6 weeks or so, I stumbled upon a song that resonated with me. My husband and I have been married for almost 29 years and we have had our share of ups and downs. And if I’m being honest, most of the ups were not really high ups, but the downs were really low downs. When our daughter started high school, I started harboring a deep, secret fear (found out later my husband was having the same fear) — I was very much afraid that when our daughter left for college we would fall apart. We had had so many bad years and our marriage really felt pretty empty at times that I worried that the last little bit of glue holding us together would be gone. But miraculously, we didn’t break. Instead, we somehow found our way back to each other and our marriage started to flourish. I’m not saying things are perfect because we’ve had a few downs since our renaissance, but it’s like now we know how to find our way back to each other when things get rough and stormy. And it turns out we both have been secretly harboring the same secret thought again — we wish we could have found each other sooner. We both are feeling our age and knowing we probably have passed the midway point in our marriage and there’s some regret that we missed out on some years of great friendship. That’s where the song I’m writing about comes in. The song is “99 Years” by Josh Groban and Jennifer Nettles. It’s one of those songs that grabbed me the moment I first heard it. It’s like the song fell into my lap when I needed to hear it. I know Jim and I don’t have 99 years left together, but I’m going to make sure we make it as close to that as we can.
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I’ve never heard this song before but see why you like it so much. Every marriage has its issues. Bravo to you both for working on yours together and learning to enjoy yourselves. You know, when you’ve worked at something and it’s been hard, it’s nice to learn how to have fun together, and to realize you deserve that fun. Found you on the A to Z master list… http://www.lisabuiecollard.com