Well, that got your attention, didn’t it?
I’m just gonna put it out there — I don’t know why people have hang-ups about porn. If you don’t like it, then don’t read it or watch it or look at it. It’s actually quite easy to avoid (unless, of course, you work with me — then it gets delivered to your inbox in the form of spam). If an adult you know — or adults you DON’T know — are accepting of pornography, it’s not your job to show them the evil of their ways. Indulging in pornography is a persona decision — much like what clothes you wear, how you wear your hair, or where you live. But it seems like whenever sex is tied to something, people love to judge others based on their own personal preferences.
Personal case in point: When my daughter was 18 and graduated from high school, she decided to read Fifty Shades of Gray. I posted something on Facebook about it — not even sure what it was now — and it caused one of my cousins (male) to attack me for allowing my child to read it. He questioned my morals as a parent and a woman, but all I could respond with was this: my daughter was 18 at the time. She was a high school graduate on her way to college. She was old enough to vote and go fight and die for her country, if she so chose (which she did consider at that age). She was old enough to watch porn, look at porn, buy porn, and make her own porn, but I was supposed to forbid her to read a book that practically every other adult female had read? Ridiculous and unnecessary. By the way, did I mention that he has no children and isn’t planning to have any? Yes, parenting advice about pornography from someone who hasn’t done anything more complicated than teach his dog how to roll over.
One other case in point that has been in the media lately: The “Duke Porn Star”. Here’s a woman who decided on her own to do porn films as a way to finance her college education (by the way, estimated cost of attending Duke is $61,404). She didn’t advertise it, but when a classmate saw one of her films, he outed her and thus began the shaming of a young woman who is clearly intelligent (last I knew, Duke wasn’t known for admitting idiots — remember, we’re not talking about their athletic program right now) and made an adult decision about how to manage her debts (something way too many Americans have no idea how to do or even have the inclination to do). But since being exposed, her family has been threatened, she has received death threats, and she has been called a slut and all conceivable synonyms as well as receiving threats of rape. All for doing porn?????? And from people who have probably watched all sorts of porn, including hers!!!!!!! My God, the hypocrisy and judgement is nauseating!
Everyone is entitled to their opinions, and they are also entitled to share them. But I’ve got a problem when your opinion spills over into pronouncing judgment upon me. So if you don’t tell me how much you despise porn, I won’t tell you how much I enjoy it.