Yes Means Yes; Everything Else Means No!

Yes means yes; everything else means no.

When it comes to consensual sex, why is that concept so damn difficult to understand?

If a man wants to have sex with a woman and she says yes, then there’s a green light.

If she’s drunk or high and says yes and then says no, stop, don’t, quit or becomes unresponsive or unconscious, that’s a no.

If she’s drunk or high and says no, that’s a no.

If she’s unconscious and can’t say yes, that’s a no.

If she doesn’t say definitively that she wants to have sex, she hems and haws and appears indecisive, that’s a no.

If she says yes and then says no, stop, don’t, or quit, that’s a no.  I don’t care if you were in the middle of something good.  It clearly wasn’t good for her.  So that’s a no.

If you buy her a nice expensive dinner and she’s dressed really sexy and she doesn’t want to have sex with you, that’s a no.  She doesn’t owe you.

If you take her on an expensive trip, buy her expensive gifts, spend lots of money on her and she doesn’t want to have sex with you, that’s a no.  She doesn’t owe you.

If she is dressed in super skimpy outfits and is grinding all over you on the dance floor and she doesn’t want to have sex with you, that’s a no.  She isn’t a tease.  She doesn’t owe you.

If she is parading around naked in front of you, putting things in your face and she doesn’t want to have sex with you, that’s a no.  She isn’t a tease or a slut.  She doesn’t owe you.

If she is your wife and she doesn’t want to have sex with you, that’s a no.  She doesn’t owe you.  She isn’t your property.  It’s not her duty.  You don’t have a right to her.

And for any other scenario I didn’t think up here, let me cover the bases simply: if a woman is of sound mind and communicative ability (she’s not drunk, high, mentally disabled, unconscious, unable to speak the language) and she does not give you a free and clear yes, then that’s a no.

When you try to have sex with a woman who is not providing a free and clear yes, you are committing rape, and it no longer becomes about sex.  It becomes about power and aggression and violence and anger and evil.

Teach this shit to your boys, parents.  I’m tired of reading articles like this.

About renbog

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2 Responses to Yes Means Yes; Everything Else Means No!

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