Blogging A to Z — Uncles

UIn the blogging a to z challenge, today I’m faced with the letter U, and I’m going to write about my my uncles who have had a huge influence on me!

First let me introduce you to my uncles Jimmy and Joey. These are 2 of my mom’s brothers and they are both developmentally disabled. They live in a group home with other developmentally disabled men. They are two of my favorite people in the world because they have always made me smile, and it is because I grew up with them in my life that I have learned to be so open to different kinds of people. It never occurred to me that they were different from anyone else because they were just always the way they are, and it seemed normal to me. Once I realized they were different, I kind of shrugged, and that’s how I feel about people now. All people are different in their own ways, so accept them. My uncle Jimmy loves music. he has an affinity for music from the 1970’s — Michael Jackson and The Jackson 5, The Partridge Family, Stevie Wonder, and Barry Manilow are his favorites. He also has an active imaginary life that can be quite entertaining! My uncle Joey loves to shake hands and show off his muscles. They both love to show others their watches and rings, and they are always very complimentary about people’s clothes and appearance. I like to tel people that my uncles Jimmy and Joey are the best people I know because they have no malice in their hearts. They are pure and only know how to love.

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My uncles on my mom’s side of the family. Seated are Uncle Jimmy and Uncle Joey. Standing is Uncle Tommy.

My mom’s other brother is my uncle Tommy. For years when I was little, I was sure he didn’t exist. All I knew was that my grandmother used to tell me to be quiet because my uncle Tommy was sleeping. Once I realized he was indeed real, he quickly became one of my favorite relatives. He and his wife (my aunt Sharon) spent tons of time with me and my brother and cousins. They took us bowling and to arcades and mini-golfing. They even took us to Wisconsin Dells for a camping trip. My brother and I got to go to Florida and Disney World with them. When I was with them, I got to do anything I wanted. It was like magic. I never laughed so much as I did on all the adventures I had with my uncle Tommy. I always knew how much he loved me and cared about me because it showed in his actions.

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My uncle Stan on a fishing trip to Minnesota.

Then on my dad’s side, I have my uncle Stan. You won’t find a more generous man than my uncle Stan. He has helped me in every way conceivable. He has fed me, driven me places, fixed things, repaired my car, washed my car, among many other things. He gives great advice. He tells great stories. He has a very practical view of the world. And he makes me laugh because sometimes he does things that are funny — wearing two different shoes, walking into glass doors, goofing up telling a joke. One of my favorite pastimes is to get together with my aunt and cousins and tell the same uncle Stan stories we’ve been telling for years.

I am fortunate that all of my uncles are still in my life. They still make my life rich and enjoyable. I am the luckiest niece in the world.

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Blogging A to Z — Texas

TMy blogging a to z topic today is the great state of Texas!

When I was a little girl, I vowed that I would never, ever visit Texas because they have lots of tornadoes in Texas and I am terrified (still) of tornadoes. Well, I have broken that vow many times over.

I love Texas. Well, let me clarify. I love Houston/Galveston. Texas is a big state and I have only been to a small amount of that state.

I visited my friend’s mom in Lufkin, which is generally between Houston and Dallas. I liked Lufkin. It was a small town but pleasant.

I’ve been to San Antonio. It was nice but honestly, I didn’t think the people there were terribly friendly and it’s not as pretty as Houston/Galveston — no palm trees. But I will say that a trip to San Antonio is worth it just to go to Rudy’s. The food is truly an experience.

The Houston/Galveston area is where I’ve spent the majority of my time in Texas and I love it. My dad and his wife have lived there for a number of years and I love visiting. It’s very tropical — hot, humid, palm trees, hibiscus. The Houston ship channel is actually pretty interesting. And of course, there’s Johnson Space Center (of “Houston, we have a problem” fame). The food is fabulous — the best Mexican food I’ve ever had has come out of the Houston area. The people are incredibly friendly, and I stick out like a sore thumb with my nasally midwestern accent. But the people are accommodating and always ask where I’m from and tell me to come visit again.

Galveston is a beach town with that typical beach-town feel. It has a really interesting history, learning about the seawall and the hurricanes which have damaged and destroyed it yet it keeps bouncing back.

I may be less than impressed with the way education is handled there, and my views sure aren’t in line with Texas politics, but that doesn’t stop me from loving it. God bless Texas ❤

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Blogging A to Z — SlapShot Brewing Company

SFor the letter S, today’s blogging A to Z challenge letter, I’m going to ride some coattails and name drop and make myself cool by association (at least that’s the way I see it, and I ain’t ashamed!) by telling you about SlapShot Brewing.

SlapShot Brewing is a local craft beer brewery owned by a couple of very smart, cool guys I know personally — brothers Steven and Brian. I consider myself fortunate enough to have been able to see the birth of SlapShot — hear all about the establishment of their location and the purchase of their equipment and sample their beer as it’s being imagined. I wasn’t much of a beer drinker until Steven and Brian (and their dad Larry along with my husband, too) started teaching me about beer and getting me to try different beers. And now I call myself a bit of a beer snob because I’d much rather drink a beer made by some local microbrewery over a Bud Light any day. I find myself preferring beer that doesn’t taste like beer. I also really, really like dark beers.

The beautiful and delicious Baby Koala Rare

The beautiful and delicious Baby Koala Rare

McLaughlin's Red Eye Porter -- this is amazing! It tastes like an amazing iced coffee! This is one of my favorites!

McLaughlin’s Red Eye Porter — this is amazing! It tastes like an amazing iced coffee! This is one of my favorites!

I know Steven and Brian are working hard and making sacrifices to make their business successful, so I enjoy when I get an opportunity to tell someone about their beer. I feel a fun thrill when I go to a bar and see their beer on the menu or when I go into a liquor store and can buy their beer and bring it home and drink it in my pajamas!

If you’re in Illinois and you’re a beer drinker, I encourage you to use their website (see link above) to read about their beers and use the location finder to discover a location near you where you can get their beer. I promise, you won’t be disappointed!

My ABSOLUTE favorite is Stick to the Nuts -- a peanut butter beer with an amazing flavor! This goes down nice and easy!

My ABSOLUTE favorite is Stick to the Nuts — a peanut butter beer with an amazing flavor! This goes down nice and easy!

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Blogging A to Z — Running

RIf you know me, then it’s probably no surprise that my topic for the letter R in the blogging A to Z challenge is running.

I’m a runner.

You have no idea how much I enjoy typing that sentence. Because I wanted to be a runner for a long time and it’s finally happened.

A number of years ago, I decided I wanted to start running. And I failed at it. I had shin splints so bad that there were a few times I was literally unable to walk because my shins hurt so horribly. I wasn’t surprised because so many other times I tried to run I had the same problem with my shins. I was giving up the dream.

Then in 2013 my husband decided to start running. And he had success at it. And I became consumed with jealousy. He wanted to run the Hot Chocolate race in Chicago and I actually picked a fight with him in order to give myself a reason not go cheer him on at his first 5K. I eventually did tell him how terribly envious I was feeling and I did go cheer him on, but I was an ugly person.

While he was training, I secretly started trying to run again. It was brutal. I was so out of shape. But I noticed that my shins weren’t bothering me. I literally started running by running for 30 seconds, walking for 5 minutes, and repeating this. I slowly started to increase my running time and decrease my walking time until I could start using a couch-to-5K app, then I used that, sometimes repeating a week 2, 3, even 4 times. I decided to run my first 5K in December 2013. It was brutal because I was really overweight plus I had a fresh snow fall to run through.

But that 5K really spurred me on and I kept running. I kept trying to improve, sometimes my pace, sometimes my distance. I tend not to care that I am a slow runner; my pace tends to be somewhere in the 13:00 – 13:30 mile pace. I’ve done as well as 12:51.

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The photo on the left is me crossing the finish line at my very first 5K. The picture on the right is me crossing the finish line at the same race one year later. What a difference some hard work, determination, and weight loss make 🙂

This past December I ran the same 5K I ran for my first 5K and it was a lot easier and a lot more satisfying. Since then, I’ve managed to increase my distance to 5 miles for my longest run. On average, I run 2 – 3 miles each time I run (about 4 times a week). I can easily remember when it was a struggle to run a mile. Now a mile isn’t even a workout.

I have even suffered a typical runner’s injury, had physical therapy, and bounced back from the injury.

One day, while talking with my husband about my running, he called me an athlete. I was dumbfounded. I’ve never been an athlete in my life. But I started thinking about it and realized he is right. I AM an athlete.

I’m a runner.

And I’m damn proud of it.

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Blogging A to Z — Questions

QFor today’s blogging A to Z challenge, I’m going to pose some questions. Feel free to answer any of them if you can.

Why do bad things happen to good people?

Would the ecosystem really collapse if tics didn’t exist anymore? Or tarantulas? Or scorpions?

Why do I have such a crappy relationship with food?

What ever happened to my ex-fiance Randy?

Why has politics become so horribly, awful mean?

How come some words are “bad words”? They’re just words.

Why do people in this country have more hang ups about sex in the media than violence in the media?

Why can’t everyone just agree that there really is no legitimate reason for your average, run-of-the-mill Joe Citizen to own an AK-47 except if they want to kill people?

Why do people post dumb stuff on social media without bothering to check out if it’s true or not?

Why is Apple Configurator so damn confusing?

Why has my marriage lasted (so far, at least) but other people’s have not?

Why am I here?

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Blogging A to Z — Poetry

PPoetry is today’s topic in the blogging A to Z challenge. When I taught junior high language arts, I always told my students that I might not get them to love poetry but hopefully I could get them to at least appreciate poetry. Lots of people say they don’t like poetry because they don’t understand it or they say it’s stupid. I always say that’s untrue because if you like music, then chances are you like poetry. Song lyrics are definitely poetry. They use numerous poetic elements — rhythm, rhyme, and a myriad of figurative language. One artist who, in my opinion, isn’t the best singer but is an amazing lyricist is Taylor Swift. Her lyrics for “All Too Well” truly are poetry. I also kind of like Eric Church’s lyrics for “Over When It’s Over“; I have said that would be a great song to teach metaphor. Students always like to test the theory of lyrics being poetry by bringing up much-maligned forms of music like rap. I contend that rap music is some of the most poetic out there! When I hear the lyrics to Eminem’s “Love the Way You Lie“, I am struck by all the imagery and ambiguity in the words. I am also incredibly moved by the poem “Funeral Blues” by W. H. Auden. There is actually a particularly beautiful reading of that poem in the movie Four Weddings and a Funeral.

But when it comes to “traditional” poetry, my taste is all over the place. I would venture to say that my favorite poem is “Love Song: I and Thou” by Alan Dugan. I stumbled upon it one year many years ago and it was like smacking into a wall. I also love “Mother to Son” by Langston Hughes. I love the image of life being a crystal stair. I pretty much adore Gwendolyn Brooks. I remember seeing her speak at a conference once while I was pregnant with my daughter. She put her hands on my belly and smiled. Which makes my favorite Gwendolyn Brooks poem, “the mother” even more haunting than it already is.

I’ve tried my hand at writing my own poetry, but I’m just not very good at it. My husband once told me that my poetry is at it’s best when my life is miserable. He’s probably right. I will share here one poem I’ve written that I’m actually proud of and has received compliments. The title is “Cass Lake”.

Diamonds made of moonlight
Dance on the ripples
In the dusk.
The gray of the lake in the evening
Reminds me of the times you and I sat on the pier
And dreamed of growing old together:
Gray as the lake,
Rich as diamonds!

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Blogging A to Z — Oklahoma City

OFor my blogging A to Z challenge today, I thought I would write a bit about Oklahoma City, specific the Oklahoma City bombing and memorial, as we are approaching the 20th anniversary of that sad event.

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The photo that had an impact all over the world — a firefighter cradling tiny Baylee Almon’s body. Source: http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/06/25/article-2347862-1A7E42D4000005DC-460_634x819.jpg

I clearly remember the Oklahoma City bombing. We were mere days away from my daughter’s first birthday and if the bombing itself wasn’t horrible enough, I learned about the day care center where so many children died in that bombing. Still unaccustomed to feeling all the feels that come with being a new mom (see this post), I was overwhelmed with anguish for those parents and children. I remember seeing the photo of the firefighter carrying Baylee Almon, a year old just the day before she died. I also remember thinking, “The media wouldn’t show that picture unless that sweet baby survived.” Sadly, tragically, I was wrong. I am choking up just remembering it.

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My daughter looking around at the Oklahoma City Memorial.

About 10 years ago or so, my best friend and I took our daughters on a road trip to California. One of the stops we made was to visit the Oklahoma City Memorial. None of our girls remembered it — my daughter was only going on a year old, and my friend’s daughters were just a little over two and not born yet when it happened. We prepped them for it as best we could, but we were unprepared for the effect it actually had on them as we saw our daughters sobbing at the sights and sounds.

If you have never seen the memorial, it is worth a trip. It is beautiful and moving and educational. As we approach the anniversary, please keep all the victims and their families in your memories. I know they will be in mine for the rest of my life.

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Blogging A to Z — Numbers

NThe letter N is featured today in the blogging A to z challenge. My post will be numbers — a nice, random collection of digits.

When I lived in Nebraska as a child, my phone number was 402-331-6864. When I lived on Shorewood as a teenager, my phone number was 815-741-1593. When my husband and I lived in Joliet, our number was 815-727-4444. Please don’t call any of these numbers. I won’t be the one to answer the phone!

12 — the number of tattoos I have.

2 — the number of dogs I have.

24 — the number of years I have worked for my school district.

14 — the number of years I have lived in my current house.

33 — the number of states I have visited.

7 — the number of countries I have visited.

1 — the number of times I have been married.

43 — the number of pounds I have lost since starting Weight Watchers in August.

8 or 9 — the number of years I anticipate I have left to work until I retire from teaching.

13 — the number of cousins I have; 8 — the number of cousins I associate with.

289 — my highest weight ever.

40 — the number of pounds I gained when I was pregnant.

3 — the number of times I have broken my nose.

4 — the number of piercings I have.

4 — the number of TV’s in my house; 2 — the number of TV’s that are working.

Me, by the numbers.

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Blogging A to Z — Motherhood

 

 For my blogging A-Z post today, I’d like to speak briefly about motherhood. I became a mother almost 21 years ago. It has been quite an interesting experience. Having a child has given me the opportunity to feel the happiest of happys and the saddest of sads. While being a mom, I have never laughed so hard. I have never cried so hard. Being a mom has made me feel very sure about some things and completely doubtful about others.

One thing no one ever told me about motherhood is how I would feel about my baby when she was born. I spent nine months loving this sweet creature growing inside my body. And when she was born, I looked at her and thought she was a very pretty baby. But I can say with absolute certainty and that I didn’t love her. All I could see was that she was a baby. I was scared to death of the fact that I didn’t have this overwhelming feeling of love for this little creature. It wasn’t until a good day later that I saw unders doing a he’ll stick on her in the nursery and I could tell she was crying and I realized someone was hurting her and I immediately became enraged and wanted my baby. I went back to my room and I told Jim to get Rebekah out of the nursery so I could see her. When I finally got her, I held her and vowed that no one would ever hurt her ever again. I knew at that moment that I had fallen in love with my daughter.

Something else no one ever told me about being a mom was my immediate initiation into the mean mom’s club. Every single thing I did was criticized and ridiculed. I didn’t breast-feed, I used disposable diapers, I used commercial baby food, I had her vaccinated, I bought her clothes at the resale shop, I let her play in the sandbox at the neighborhood playground, I let her eat candy, I let her drink soda, I let her watch television, I didn’t make cookies with her, I didn’t break her birthday cakes, I bought treats at the store for her birthday celebrations at school, I didn’t make her wash her hands every time before she ate a meal or a snack, I sent her to day care, the list of things I did wrong goes on and on and on. All of these are things that other moms made comments to me about at one point or another. Good thing I never tried to be a perfect mother like all those moms were. Once you have kids, expect that you will be criticized for every decision you make.

In addition to all of this, nobody ever told me how I would feel every single emotion my child felt. Every time she was happy or excited, I was just as happy or excited as she was. But every time she was angry or sad or hurting, I felt every ounce of that anger, sadness, and hurt. And I might even venture to say that I felt all those things more intensely than she did. I never expected the emotions I feel to be so intensely strong as I feel them as a mom.

I love my daughter so much more than words could ever express. But I spend a lot of time doubting my ability to be an even slightly decent mother. The few times I have thought to myself that I shouldn’t be on mom had nothing to do with my daughter and everything to do with my own feelings of inadequacy. That’s something else nobody ever told me about being a mom. 

My beautiful daughter and me at her sorority fundraiser.

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Blogging A to Z — Lamb

LFor my Blogging A to Z post today, I’d like to tell you about a book I read that had a pretty significant impact on me. That book is called Lamb and it is written by Christopher Moore.

The premise of the book is that it is a gospel chronicling the life of Jesus Christ according to his childhood friend Biff. Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Biff. And yes, in many respects it is a comedy. Because the book is comedic and Christ’s best friend is named Biff, many people would say that this book is sacrilegious. Once you delve into reading the book and realize that there is also cursing and sex in it, some people would immediately brand it as irreverent, evil, sinful trash. But I contend that it is not. And I’ll explain why.

The book explains why Biff was never mentioned in the gospels, so if you’re wondering how he even came to be, well, you’ll learn that. Biff meets Christ when they are young boys and he tells us all about what Jesus was like as a young kid and all the adventures they went on together. We also get to learn about what it was like to be a follower of Jesus as he was arrested and crucified, which is where the book takes a turn from the comedic.

There have ben movies depicting the life of Christ, graphically showing us the sacrifice He made for us by dying on the cross. As Christians, we are told how Christ died for our sins and expected to find a deep appreciation for that sacrifice made out of love. I admit, I do my best to appreciate that but it is very difficult for me to wrap my brain around the concept of Jesus allowing Himself to be crucified to save me. It is incredibly difficult to identify with the level of pain, agony, and sacrifice He made on my behalf. I think that must be a struggle for many Christians, not just me.

But here is where the power of this book lies, in my opinion: in Biff’s experience. As he (and all the other disciples of Christ) watch things unfold, see their friend Jesus allowing Himself to be handed over and tortured, they panic. They feel fear. They are terrified at the thought of losing their friend and they try everything they can to prevent it. Their anguish is evident as they watch Jesus die a horrible death on the cross. They are nearly out of their minds with fear and panic and rage and helplessness. It is incredibly emotional. And I was amazed how, as I read that part of the book, how I was feeling the same things. It was at that moment I had the deepest understanding and appreciation for what Jesus did for me. I can’t identify with the way He suffered, but I could identify with how his friends and family felt, their sadness and grief. And because I was able to identify with them, and I could feel what they were feeling, I had an inkling of what it must have been like to lose Christ and that made me appreciate in a new way the sacrifice made for my soul. I appreciated Jesus so much more after reading this book.

So if a book can strengthen my relationship with Jesus, how could it be sacrilegious?

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